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True Beauty Within

 

According to man, the woman’s appeal lies in her physical attributes as they are pleasing to his eyes.  But, it is very important to remember that the outer appearance is changing.  When her physical attributes change, the beauty may not sustain, and it offers no emotional or moral support.  We see this blatantly in the entertainment and fashion industries.  The women in those industries can quickly become old news as they gain weight or their outer beauty begins to change from aging, and it seems as though they fade into the abyss.

Radiate Inner Beauty Woman

For the woman who has accepted Christ, the goal to beautify herself physically is no longer her main focus.  This is not to say that it is forbidden because even the holy women of the past adorned themselves.  But, the total of her beauty is not defined by her physical appeal.  Because of Christ, she is no longer cursed, and instead receives a mark of distinction as God’s child.  It is the true beauty of her inner spirit that warms the heart of those who experience her.  Her true beauty radiates from within her eyes, smile, skin and presence.  Her beauty is that the Lord shines forth.  He calls attention to the essence of who she is.  He calls attention to her spirit where He lives.  She has a humble, gentle and calm spirit that welcomes and relaxes.  She offers peace and safety because she rests in the peace of the Lord.  She has the joy of the Lord.  He is her source of delight and pleasure.  Therefore, when people come into her presence they experience enjoyment.

Those qualities set her apart and cause her to stand out.  She receives honor that surpasses recognition given to women who are recognized mainly for their physical beauty.  Her honor is a Heavenly honor. ♥

Excerpt from the book, Probing the Woman’s Curse by A. Rolita Adams

Copyright 2012 by Amila Rolita Adams

All worldwide rights reserved.

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Spotlight on Tiffany Junnell’e Vol. 007

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Tiffany Junnell’e is an American Christian fashion designer that started in the industry at a very early age. Tiffany and her late mother would collaborate on different designs and she and her mother would produce the pieces within days. Along with modeling, her fashion sense was spotted early on in her career. She was chosen to meet with the buyers of the Mercantile Company, which is now known as Macy’s, to select the merchandise for both the Junior’s and Young Men’s Departments for the southeast region of the country. After the completion of her Bachelor’s degree in Textiles, Merchandising and Design with a concentration in Fashion Design and a minor in Theatrical Design, she has continued with her love of fashion.
Originally from Tennessee, Tiffany has had the opportunity to live in Chicago, Los Angeles and the DMV areas where she has expanded her resume to experience different facets in the fashion industry. Not only has Tiffany taught fashion design to young eager students she has also designed costumes, bridal gowns, ready-to-wear garments and styled customers for commercials and photo-shoots. She also held the position of the Fashion Editor for Hope Today Magazine. She was quickly promoted to the Fashion Director’s role as her work was recognized and well-received by consumers and the big box retailers, in which the magazine was sold. Tiffany feels that it is important to stay current in your craft as she recently received her Master’s degree in Fashion Marketing from LIM College in New York, which is one of the top schools in the world where fashion meets business.
To pay tribute to her late mother and to keep their dream alive, a brand extension of her company will be named in honor of her mother. Tiffany Junnell’e is more than a fashion business, it’s a ministry to help uplift and empower women through fashion around the world.

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Rolita: First and foremost, thank you for taking your time out on a Saturday and allowing me to interview you for the Radiate Inner Beauty blog. Let’s start with my first question. As a little girl, how did your environment affect your view about beauty whether that was at home, school or church?
Tiffany: First, thank you for having me on your show. It’s a pleasure to be with you and joining you on this beautiful Saturday. I can say that I was blessed to have a mother who instilled in me from the time I was a little girl positive affirmation. She told me that I was beautiful, that I was smart, I was strong. I was going to be successful. That I can overcome anything. And not only did she instill that in me, she told that to people around her about me. It’s crazy because even to this day I still talk to some of my mom’s friends. My mom is deceased now. But I still talk to some of her friends on a regular basis and they would tell me every single time that I talk to them, “You were your momma’s heart. Your mom always said positive things about you.” And that stayed with me for so many years. And even when things have happened in my life, I’ve always gone back to the positive things that she said about me. Before I had a relationship with Christ, you know, I stood by my mom’s word. Then when I was old enough to have a relationship with God and I read about the things that He said about me, it just put the icing on the cake.
Rolita: Wow! Yes! Amen! That’s awesome. Because God is all-knowing, and He knew that your mom was not going to be with you for the rest of your life, but He first used her to plant seeds in you and then watered it with His Word and we’re going to see the fruit – Hallelujah! – that He is gonna do in your life. Jesus! Amen! (Laughing) Ok. With that and the foundation that your mother gave you, at any point did you feel like you had to compare yourself to other girls growing up?
Tiffany: No, I didn’t. I really didn’t because I always felt confident because if my momma said it, that’s all that mattered.
Rolita: What! Boom! That’s all we need to know. (Laughing)
Tiffany: (Laughing) It’s crazy because I’m 4’11”. I’m petite. And in high school I had the opportunity to model and all the other young girls were taller than me, but I was always booked for more jobs than them.

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Rolita: You would always get more jobs than them? Is that what you said?
Tiffany: Uh-huh. I was booked for more jobs than them. Back in high school, I worked for what is now called Macy’s, but back then it was part of the Mercantile Company. I was selected to meet with the buyers for the Southeast region. I was booked for the back to school fashion shows, the prom fashion shows, the swimming fashion shows. I was booked for every fashion show. All of the girls were taller than me, but hey! I was like, my momma said I can do it so I can do it.
Rolita: (Laughing) Whoop! Let me say this, God was already showing that He was going to defy the odds with you or what mankind says is the norm. He was already establishing in your life at an early age that He was going to defy the odds with you.
Tiffany: Yes, He did. Yes, He did.
Rolita: Ok. With that being said, what do you think about society’s standard of beauty today and how it affects young girls and women?
Tiffany: You know what? It’s so disappointing because society’s standard of beauty is so commercialized. It’s so false. I mean society says if you’re not a certain race, if you’re not a certain height, if you don’t have a certain figure, if you don’t look a certain way then you’re not beautiful. But that’s a lie. That’s a lie from hell. And that’s something that I want to change with my label. My mission is to have women to believe that no matter my size, no matter my race, no matter my height, no matter what flaws I have, because God says I’m beautiful that’s all that matters and what you say is not true. They know just because that person has a set of issues they want to portray those issues on another person to make another person feel bad about themselves is not right. And I want to change that. I want to change the way that women feel they have to dress a certain way, show more to get attention. You don’t have to do that.
Rolita: You know I’m loving it. I’m getting full up in here right now. Holy Spirit help me because I’m about to holler. Jesus! (Laughing) Ok. So, I am looking forward to God using you to change things in the industry. That is one of the things that I put out there how the entertainment industry and fashion industry – oh, my God! – it’s so overwhelming the focus they have on beauty, body-image and sexuality. We especially in the body of Christ need a standard to be set because a lot of times the young girls and even some of the women unfortunately conform to the world. They conform to the way the world dresses or the way the world looks when we actually should be setting the standard. We should have a standard that does not dumb down to what they do or the way that they look. There is a spirit of excellence that we should have and it’s in Christ. You know? Ok. So, what would you tell young girls is radiating Christ beauty or inner beauty? What does that look like to Tiffany from what God has put inside of you?
Tiffany: You know what? I used to mentor young girls and we use to meet once a week. Before we even started our session, I would always tell them that in Psalm 139:14 God says that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. So, no matter what you go through in life, no matter how many times you’ve been knocked down, no matter how many times you look in the mirror and say, “I’m not good enough,” yes you are. God has already said it in Psalms that you are. So, pick yourself up, dry your eyes and when somebody tells you – don’t listen to it. Ignore it. Wipe your shoulders off. You know what I’m saying? Pick yourself up and know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. If God says it, God has said it and that’s all that matters.
Rolita: Yes. Amen. So, is there anything else that you would like to share with the readers? Is there anything about some of the things that you are looking forward to doing? You don’t have to divulge anything as far as your business and especially we have to protect intellectual property, copyrights, and patents. We have to protect all of that. But, is there anything – just the vision for what you have and what you would like to do? Not too much though.
Tiffany: My vision is to help other designers who are coming along the way. This is not an easy industry to be in. There’s a lot of cutthroat. There’s a lot of things that are not of God. And I not only want to make a change in the industry, I want to change the “standards” of what society’s beauty is. But, I also want to offer jobs, offer internships. I want to be a mentor and I want to have a global business. So, I don’t only want to have an impact on the United States, but I want to take my business all over the world and have an impact all over the world.
Rolita: Amen. I love it. So for clarity are you saying you are doing that with your different designs or your mentorship program?
Tiffany: Well with my brand, it is going to be an extension of different brands. So, not only am I going to have clothing and shoes and accessories, handbags, but I’m also going to have marketing programs where I do marketing for other companies. I’ll consult with other companies. I’ll teach classes and speak. Do some publishing as well and a few other things that I’m still praying about. But, it’s going to be like a global empire of fashion that not only helps me but helps other companies as far as doing sessions for fashion shows and movie productions. So, it’s going to be a lot.
Rolita: Alright now. I thank God. Well, I’m just putting it out there. I just pray that God accelerates what you are doing, that He will bring people into your life who will help you forge that. I know that you are a Christian, that you are a woman of God. I do know that you have a heart for that, but your impact will be for the world. That’s what we’re here for to impact the world and so we need fashion designers like you. We really do because a young lady can look classy and she can look elegant. She doesn’t have to bare all in order to look nice. My father taught me about being a challenge for a young man. He would say, “Don’t be easy. Give him something to work for.” (Laughing) But, the way fashions are now they basically leave nothing to the imagination. And that to me, the young women do more disservice to themselves because – I love men, so nothing against men – but a man’s gonna take what you give him. That’s what my father taught me. If you make it easy, he’s going to take what you give him. If he doesn’t feel like he’s got to work for it, he’s not going to work for it. But, he will take it and he will keep right on moving. So we need women in the fashion industry to set a standard. I am so grateful to God that He has given you this heart, this passion, which started with your mother. This is a generational blessing in the making that we’re seeing. And He looks for someone in a generation to see when He gives them gifts, “Who is the one that I can use mightily in the world who is willing to do some awesome things that people have never seen before?” And so, I believe that’s your time, Tiffany, and I support you. That’s why I invited you to come on and let me interview you so we can get your blog out there. We need to start helping one another get the word out about what we each are doing. And I love it and I’m looking forward to it. I hope with this blog more people will become aware of what you are doing and support you. So keep right on going forward, Tiffany. Ok?
Tiffany: Thank you. Thank you so much. Can I say one thing?
Rolita: Yeah! I was about to ask you if you had anything else before we wrap up the interview.
Tiffany: Just this week a fashion designer, Kate Spade, she’s known all over the world beautiful designs with her handbags and other accessories. And she had a lifestyle that anybody could want, but deep down she was hurting and she committed suicide. And that’s one thing I do want to change because even though you may look on the outside there may be something going on inside. So as far as my brand being a brand that is based on Christ, I do want to help other women get to know Jesus that don’t know Him. I really think that if she had a relationship with God things would be different. And before she passed away, before she killed herself, committed suicide, she left a note to her daughter. I’m praying to God that doesn’t lead to another bad case with her daughter because her daughter saw her mother commit suicide and she left a note to her. And her daughter was her world. She was going through a divorce. And I don’t know. Nobody knows what really went on behind closed doors. But, just to say that it was so bad that – you had everything, you were a part of the fashion world and so many people looked up to you. So, I just want to change things and I want to share my testimony about the things that I’ve gone through in my marriage that could’ve taken me down but it didn’t. I held on to my relationship with God. I held on to the things that God said about me. I held on to the things my mom said about me and it kept me going. So, I just want to be a light to help other people along the way who are in this industry. Because you just never know what people are dealing with and the enemy is strong. And you know like I said, he’s strong in the fashion industry as well. It’s a lot of hidden symbols in labels that people wear that are demonic. And a lot of people don’t know that.
Rolita: Yes, and they’re putting them on their bodies. Hmm. Thank you so much for taking your time. You know my goal is to do what I can to support especially people who have a heart for the Lord, for Christ and want to get His message of love out. Like you said, He makes the difference in whatever we do. Everyone is not called to be a pastor, minister or deacon. That’s why I love interviewing people like you, Tiffany, who are in the fashion industry. I mean because you just graduated with your Masters–
Tiffany: Whoop! Whoop! (Laughing)

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Rolita: (Laughing) Yes! And I look forward to the things that God is doing and with you being a woman of God in the fashion industry. God wants to use people there. So I think that was very timely what you said and I thank you for saying that. My goal is to get more people in different industries to tell their testimonies with the part that God has given me to help put it out in the world. So I would like to thank you once again for your time and just sharing your talent.
Tiffany: Thank you. Thank you for having me. Thank you for the love and support.
Rolita: You are welcome. ♥
Copyright by A. Rolita Adams
All worldwide rights reserved.

Spotlight on Sonja R. Crudup Vol. 006

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It is easier to see change agents and trailblazers who are in the public eye.  More often, they are networking, speaking publicly and using social media to promote their brand for others to see.  Radiate Inner Beauty continues to spotlight them and their causes, services and programs. 

However, there are another group of change agents who are making positive impacts in their own communities.  They may not be networking.  They may not be speaking publicly.  Although they may be on social media, they may not post a flyer, meme or anything that brings them attention.  That is the case with this Radiate Inner Beauty spotlight on Sonja R. Crudup.

Sonja is a wife, mother and sister (mine).  She has faithfully volunteered at her church for over 35 years.  That has included being part of the choir, an usher, a Sunday school teacher and helper for special events as needed like the marriage ministry.  After working nearly 20 years in the banking industry, in 2017 Sonja transitioned to the educational industry where she now performs administrative assistant duties.

One day as I listened during our phone conversation, she told me about a recent school event and how it unfolded.  I thought this is the kind of impact the world needs to hear.  I would be totally remiss if I didn’t interview her.  I hope this interview is a blessing to all who read it especially in the school systems.

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Rolita: Sonja, I’m so excited about this.  Glory.  Hallelujah.  This is my sister, Sonja Regena Crudup and we’re speaking about radiating inner beauty.  This is exciting because of what has happened to her.  Some of our foundation is similar because she is my sister but then again maybe not because everything touches different people in different ways.  So, I’m going to start out by asking my first question.  As a little girl, how did your environment affect your view about beauty whether that was at home, at school or at church? 

Sonja: Well, I would have to say that it basically started at home.  Just having the mother that I had and the moral values that she instilled in us, as well as, even just the natural things that she did as a mother having daughters and being able to watch my mom.  My mother played a big part in that she may not have had to say a whole lot, but just watching my mom, her gracefulness, the way she dealt with people, the way she kept herself up.  And then thankfully the impact that some teachers had in my life.  I can recall having a teacher of mine in second grade that just made a huge impact, and she did not even realize it.  I still remember her name.  There was a gracefulness about her, the way she conducted herself.  So, I would have to say having significant women in my life primarily my mother that has really had an impact on beauty to me.  It would start at home and then branch out from others in my life at school.

Rolita: What do you think about society’s standard of beauty today and how it affects young girls and women?

Sonja: Well, society’s standard of beauty today I do understand on the outward appearance but it’s more.  To me it kind of damaged what beauty is about because really beauty does have to do a lot with the type of person you are within.  We’ve put so much emphasis on the outer appearance that it can cloud the judgment of what you are on the inside, and really that matters.  I’ve seen some young girls as well as women who from the world’s standard they appear to be beautiful.  I mean their skin is pretty.  They’re a certain size.  Their hair is groomed a certain way.  But yet, the attitude that they have, when they open their mouths – their bodies, their nonverbal expressions it says a lot.  And it can really hurt.  Actually it does hurt to me what the standard of beauty really is.  So I think society has kinda – they’ve got it mixed up.  But, I think society has really damaged it.  I’m just going to leave it at that.  Because again, we put too much emphasis on the outer part of a person how a person looks on the outside and we’re not realizing that it’s deeper than that.  You’ve got your background, your upbringing, your beliefs, moral values.  All of that ties into really that beauty on the inside and that’s what people need to see.  That should overshadow how you look on the outside.

Rolita: Ok.  So, I’m going to piggyback off of that because of you being in the school system.  Do you think society’s standard of beauty add to female bullying? 

Sonja: Oh!  Definitely yes!  I really do.  I really do.  It kind of reminds me of you growing up and you think back to how comparisons are made about say for example your hair or your skin color or your weight.  Because one person might be smaller than the other, they may be taunting the person that is a little thicker.  So I’m just using those examples.  And I can even think about myself.  I have not been bullied but, I have had some experiences being an administrative assistant where I’ve had students even make mention about my hair because they’re wearing their hair differently versus mine.  So comments would be made in a negative sense about my hair so to speak.  I don’t know for what other reason why they’re like that, but the young ladies are so into – for example – the extensions in their hair and they think that that’s what makes them beautiful.  And I hope that I’m not getting off the path, but I can see how that would cause some bullying especially with the girls.  Because by their standards, well you don’t have this type of hair or you’re not a certain size, so you can’t wear this.  You know things of that nature.  So most definitely you see it especially with females.  There’s that jealousy thing.  So, yes, yes, yes.  I see it.  I hear it.  Comments are being made.  So definitely it does.  It does.

Rolita: I want to make sure I understand.  So with females, it’s their own standard that they have in their minds, if someone doesn’t meet up to the standard that they’ve established in their own minds, then they can be hard on another female.

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Sonja: Oh, yes!  Yes! 

Rolita: Like you said, taunt or bully them for that reason.

Sonja: Mmm hmm.  They can be bullied for that reason.  Yes.  And I see it also because I teach Sunday school.  I witness it even with the little girls in my classroom because they’re especially at that vulnerable age where they’re learning about themselves and sometimes unfortunately kids can be so vicious and mean.  I had one student in particular; I can recall her coming to me.  She’s shared with me how she’s been talked about at school and even sometimes with some of the kids at church.  She came to me and she was crying because of the comments that were made about her hair or just talking about her in terms of how she looks.  And I had to let her know, “You are a beautiful little girl.  You know all of us are different.  God created every one of us different.  God likes versatility and if everybody looked the same, it would be a boring world.”  I capitalized on some of the things about her.  She is a special little girl.  Her smile.  She’s caring.  She’s got a warmth about her.  She’s smart.  So, they need to know it’s more to them than how you look on the exterior.  And sharing that with her, she lit up.  And I meant it from my heart.  I wasn’t just saying it to make her feel good.  I meant it from my heart.

Rolita: Wow!  I have one more question and that is, what does radiating Christ’s beauty mean to you and how do you go about radiating Christ’s beauty in your daily life? 

Sonja: What does radiating Christ beauty mean to me?  Mmm.  That’s a very good question.  I think it’s simple.  Just carrying out the examples that we read about Christ in His Word that’s really to me what it means.  He was the perfect example on this earth as to how we should carry ourselves and with that how we treat people.  You know how we treat one another and showing that love.  I just think for me to exude that in my life.  First, I think about how I want to be treated.  I’m thinking too, ok I’m trying to be mindful that I represent Christ.  So in representing Christ, there’s another standard that I have to come up above regardless of opinions, regardless of how I feel.  You know because you still have things that’s a part of this flesh that you have to be like, nope I have to push that aside because I have someone else that I’m representing.  Realizing that Christ sees me and because I represent the King, hey! – I want that to show in every aspect of my life.  It’s still a process.  I’m not perfect in it.  But, knowing number one I am representing Him and He’s the Light.  So the Bible tells us to be a light that we are the light of this world and He is that Light that’s going to shine through us.  It has to come across by the simple day to day things that we do that may seem real simple, but God is drawing people in through that.  So I would have to say basically that is the way that I do that.  Just remembering that I represent Him and treating people the way I want to be treated in my every day way of living at home, on my job, wherever I am.  It can be just the basic things that a lot of times we don’t see in this world any more.  Because of that, Christ is going to shine through that and it’s going to stand out.  It’s going to stand out because the way this world is.  So that is how I would have to do that.  I hope I answered the question correctly that I didn’t miss anything on that.  

Rolita: Yes, you did.  Mmm hmm.  And because you’re my sister and I know that you’re not going to toot your own horn or boast, so I’m going to pull it out of you and ask you to tell about the award that you were just given because of the example of what you said and making sure you live that in your life on a daily basis.  So talk about that and how you arrived at that.

Sonja: Oh, ok.  Well the award that the Lord just enabled me to get Thursday, April 12 was called a Diversity Hero of the Year Award.  This award was actually offered through our Diversity Club at the school that I am an administrative assistant.  Basically, the Diversity Club is a club where they have multi-racial students in this club and it’s headed up, of course, by one of our teachers.  But the students are pretty much in the club and they pretty much I guess dictate things in a sense.  They actually nominated seven individuals and they had to wire it down to two in which I was one of the two finalists.    

Rolita: Well, let me interject that you did not know about this though.  I’m sorry to cut you off.

Sonja: Right.  Yes, I didn’t know anything about this award.  I knew nothing about this at all until I’d gotten an email by the teacher who is over the Diversity Club.  And I actually thought the email was kind of a joke, so I called the teacher.  (Laughing)  And he explained to me, “No, Mrs. Crudup this is not a joke.  The students do all the nominating.”  He doesn’t have any decision making on this.  He does not prompt the students in any way.  He does not bring up any names.  The students do this.  And he went on to explain to me how my name came up and I was really just blown away because the students apparently would take note when they would come in my office – those who I had the pleasure of coming across in their path – they would come in my office and it was basic things that I was doing.  I wasn’t doing anything to me out of the ordinary, but it was basic things that they took note on.  But that was one of the things – several of the things that caused them to nominate me.  I did attend the award – my husband, my sons and I – did attend the award event and I was very thankful that they actually did award me.  I was really surprised when the teacher wanted the president that was presenting the award to me to elaborate on what were the things that caused them to nominate me and then also to elect me for the award.  And it was just simple things such as a smile when they would come in the office.  She mentioned the positiveness that would come from me, you know, when they would be in my office.  The way that I would deal with the students that were coming to me for different reasons.  It wasn’t in a negative way, but you know dealing with young people they don’t always know how to talk when they come in.  (Chuckling)  Some of them don’t know how to say, “Good morning.”  Just basic things – to me that were basic.  And apparently these students had noticed that I would welcome them a certain way and kind of keep situations that can get out of hand I knew how to kinda diminish them.  And it would end up being smooth sailing at the end of situations.  Just simple stuff to me.  I’m saying simple.  But just things like that.  She also mentioned the buildings and grounds that I’m the administrative assistant to, being able to get rooms reserved and how I’ve been able to help them even with the reservations of rooms that they needed for their events.  So, it just blew me away.  These are some of the things that they mentioned, and I just wouldn’t have ever expected it.  To me, again, these are small things just me being me and the Lord helping me, I should say.  Cause it is a task when you’ve got all of the students coming in at you and you’ve got to service them and help them and deal with personalities.  I’m just doing what I know to do, and the Lord is helping me but they took notice of that.  To me it’s just the normal everyday mill of the routine of my job and just God helping me through that.  So, again it did lead to me getting the award and I’m very thankful.  And I just want to continue to represent God in everything that I do.  Like I said, to me it was so minor but to them it was big.  You never really realize that something to you that may be small is huge to another person.  Just God alone gets the glory and that’s how I want it to be throughout my life in everything that I do.  God get the glory.  

Rolita: That is why I am doing this platform.  I am stressing this again because you and I talk about this and that is why I wanted to interview you because this is the epitome of what I am talking about.  People in their everyday lives being mindful to radiate Christ in their lives that it causes such a change or shift in the atmosphere that people take notice.  The awesome thing to me about this is these are teenagers that have taken notice of you allowing the Lord.  As you say, you are doing this as the Lord is helping you, as He tells you – because He is telling you how to speak to a student or how to handle a situation.  He is telling you that.  And because of your obedience – you and I understand about dying daily.  We crucify our flesh daily so that Christ may be seen.  By you doing that, look at the awesome ripple effect that you have caused.  I know that right now it may seem like in this moment in time, “Oh! It’s just an award.”  That’s what some people may say.  I don’t know that anybody may say that.  They may not say that.  But let me just say this, you referenced a teacher that you had back in grammar school earlier in the interview and how she made this effect on you by the way she carried herself.  Just think about the way that you carry yourself.  And I’m trying to encourage other women as well who are in the educational system or wherever they are working.  Keep doing what you are doing because you made a point of reference for somebody back in grammar school – elementary school – that made that kind of effect on you.  Look at what you are doing in Christ that will cause that kind of effect.  We call that a domino effect or ripple in the pond that keeps going and going and going.  Those are the kinds of things that God is looking to see from the body of Christ today.  The character of Christ to shine through.  You are a trailblazer.  You are a change agent.  God has assigned you in the school system at this time to be a change agent.  You were doing enough in your daily routine – as you say it – that you caused such a shift, such a change in the atmosphere that the students took notice and nominated you.  (Laughing)  Oh!  I praise God for that!

Sonja: Wow!  Thank God for that.  Yes.  God gets the glory.  Praise God.

Rolita: Yes!  Thank God for that.  Well, that is actually the end of my interview with you.  I praise God and give Him all the glory.  Thank you so much, Sonja Regena Crudup, for allowing me some of your time to interview you and to share this interview which I hope will be an inspiration for other women to live and radiate the beauty of Christ in whatever they do in their lives.  Because you all are making a change and I think – I know the world needs to see it more and more.

Sonja: Oh!  Thank God for my sister, Rolita Adams!  I love you.

Rolita: I love you too. ♥ Sonja Crudup Diversity Hero

 

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Spotlight on Debbie Trombley Vol. 005

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A native Nashvillean and former corporate America statistic, Debbie Trombley found her calling in 1994 as an entrepreneur.  It was by default, not design, that she discovered the non-traditional way of earning a salary through the business model known as network marketing.  Selling was never an attraction for her, but Debbie’s love of people meant she was extremely qualified to share information with others if she believed her knowledge would be beneficial to them.

In 2011, Debbie entered into a distributorship with a company called It Works Global, known in 22 countries for its signature product, the Ultimate Body Applicator (aka The Crazy Wrap Thing).  Today the company represents a complete line of plant-based products that contribute to the health and wellness industry.  Included in the products are essential oils, colon cleanse, protein shakes, skincare and weight loss products.

A top leader with her company and a product of her products, Debbie is all about providing life-changing information.  The bonus to her business is Debbie’s understanding that the body is a temple for the Lord and we are to take care of it for Him.  You can contact her at:

Debbie Trombley, It Works Global Team Leader

615-403-0001 ♦ TrombleyTeam@att.netwww.AtPeoplesBest.com

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Rolita: First, Debbie I want to thank you for taking the time to allow me to interview you.  I really appreciate it.

Debbie: Well, it’s an honor that you included me. 

Rolita: Ok.  Let’s get started with my first question.  When you were a little girl, how did your environment affect your view about beauty whether that was your home, whether that was church or school?

Debbie: Well, I’ve thought about this question.  Of course, it immediately takes you back to being a little girl, and where were you a little girl?  Who were you around as a little girl?  I’m the youngest of four girls.  My mom had the four of us by the time she was 29.  So I’m the youngest and I was born when she was 29.  From the age of 19 until the age of 29 she had four daughters, and she became a single mom when I was two.  So we lived in the housing projects.  We didn’t have a whole lot of money.  But, I can see my mother now making our clothes by hand.  She didn’t have a sewing machine.  She didn’t even have a pattern.  She just was creative and she would make us pretty little skirts.  They didn’t have a zipper in them.  They had a button hole and a button.  They were open on the side, but we were so proud of those.  I remember one particular school year, I was in the first grade and my oldest sister was 16.  It actually ended up being her last year of school.  She left high school early.  I can see the four of us going up the sidewalk in matching dresses.  Now fast forward to today’s society and I can’t imagine four sisters, one being 6 and one being 16 appreciating that they were dressed alike.  But because of the love that my mother put into making those outfits, I think that right there let me know that although we were each individual girls, she loved each one of us equally.  Those outfits just expressed it.  She thought that we were beautiful daughters.  So, I guess that was probably my first introduction to feeling pretty.  Then as life continued, I ended up living with my grandparents (my mother’s parents) and all through my grammar school years.  And I remember during those years becoming self-conscious about being chubby.  I wasn’t.  I can look back at pictures when I was a child and realize, my goodness I wasn’t chubby.  But for whatever reason I thought I was.  I became self-conscious about that and I became self-conscious about having crooked teeth.  So, when I look back at photographs as a child, there are many times I see where I’ve taken my hand and covered my mouth because I didn’t want anyone to see my crooked teeth.  There were times when we would have a field trip with the school class and we were allowed to wear shorts.  I never did because of being self-conscious.  No one really put me in that state of mind.  Even at the age that I am now which is 66, I can now think back in my mind, gosh! – why did I become so self-conscious?  But there’s a happy ending to all of this.  Even though my father left when I was two, my mother had three brothers.  So I had three uncles and they stepped right in.  I never really knew the absence of my biological father because of these three men.  One uncle in particular who never married and never had any children of his own, he decided to treat me as his own daughter.  Well, he actually treated all of his nieces that way, but I guess I was the little favorite one since I was the baby.  And because of his love and encouragement and the way I saw him support his sister, my mother, those qualities in those people in my life really sustained me during that time of feeling self-conscious.

Rolita: Did you compare yourself to other girls, even your sisters?

Debbie: I don’t think I ever compared to my sisters, but I did other little girls.  And you know honestly, that might have had to do not so much with physical appearance but I was the only one in my classroom who lived with her grandparents.  So I think seeing these little girls with their mothers in tow, and maybe because their mom became a room mother, I think it was more of that identification.  I had a wonderful grandmother and there wasn’t any reason that she made me feel that way.  I think it was actually that more than, oh she’s so much prettier than me.  I’m sure a psychologist can be, “Well it sounds like this.”  But, I think for me it was that I stood out in my own imagination.  I stood out because I was the only one who lived with her grandparents and not with her mother.  Me standing out made me look at the physical aspect.

Rolita: Ok.  Now first let me make sure I understand.  Did your grandmother become the room mother?

Debbie: No, I’m sorry.  I lived with my grandmother.  My mother was still in my life.  It’s just that my uncle was helping to provide for me by having me live with my grandparents and him.  And so, the comparison started because in grammar school – elementary school back then – some mothers of the other students would become room mothers.  They were the ones who brought the cookies to the classroom and they were the ones that went on field trips.  Well my mother never got to do that.  So I think the comparison started not because of physically comparing myself to another child or another little girl, but it was like self-identification of they’ve got a mother who actually comes to the school and participates in their programs.  Well my mother was always working and my grandmother was too old to do that.

Rolita: So, how did that make you feel then?  You said that wasn’t a beauty issue.  Was that a self-confidence issue or, what was that?

Debbie: Yeah.  I think it started out lack of self-confidence which makes you self-conscious.  And then, the teen years emerged and my one sister closest to me in age who was three years ahead of me in school, she was recognized in our mutual school as most popular and the cheerleader and the homecoming queen.  And it’s interesting, for a couple of years I think I was lost in her identity.  I was her little sister.  But this is where the beauty really happens.  She never made me feel like she was number one and I was number two.  That was just in school where people have titles.  You have a tendency to go, oh wow! – they’re this and I’m not.  Well, she graduated from high school.  I decided to transfer schools and it was transferring to that other school where I became my own person and I wasn’t in the shadow of anyone.  I think that was the beginning of where I began to blossom.

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Debbie confidently presenting at a women’s networking event.

Rolita: That was actually a good thing then. 

Debbie: Oh, yes!  It was a very good thing.  That could be frightening for some young women.  Oh my goodness.  That everything they’ve known has changed.  But, I think for me it was a crossroads.

Rolita: Ok.  I can see that.  Well, then let me shift to the standard of beauty that we have today.  What do you think about society’s standard of beauty and how it affects young girls and women?

Debbie: Well, my first thought was, oh it’s better.  But, when I’m really honest about that it really hasn’t changed that much.  And that’s sadly because of the social media today.  It is so much more in our face then when you and I were growing up as little girls.  We had TV and we had Hollywood movies and what we called a Hollywood star.  We could have compared ourselves to them by Hollywood standards.  You had to look like the model.  You had to be super thin, right?  But, today with social media I see it both ways.  I see where sadly some people get on there and it’s all about posting about their new look, their new hairdo, their weight loss.  Things like that.  Someone over here who’s struggling maybe with their weight or they don’t have the money to get a new hair cut or hairdo, that could make them feel inferior.  But as I say that I’m also reminded that social media today also gives us another avenue of encouragement and of acceptance.  Of letting people know it’s ok to be different.  And today, I saw this on a morning TV program, I will not be able to repeat it exactly.  But there is a young lady.  Some people will know her name.  She’s a singer.  Her name is Demi Lovato.  And Demi’s had a struggle with her weight up and down.  She’s had some other personal issues and it’s all been very public.  But on Instagram, I believe it was today or recently, she’s posted pictures of herself with different hashtags.  And I know one of them was cellulite and I still love myself.  Another one is her pinching the fat – the little bit of fat on her tummy – and showing stretch marks on the side of her body and the hashtag is something about a little bit of fat and stretch marks and yet, I still love myself.  So when I saw and heard that I took that as a positive affirmation that she’s learned to love herself where she is.  And with social media, if the platform is used properly, we can use that to be an encourager to the younger women of today. So that they’re not comparing themselves and that it is perfectly ok to be who you are.

Rolita: Yes, I totally agree.  I have actually written about that as well about the standard of beauty today.  It is overwhelming, and a lot of it is due to the far reach of the internet.  We can see posts over in India and Africa on the internet.  So it is not just in our local community.  It is not just nationally.  We’re talking internationally.  So with that being said about using social media and the internet platform that we have today, what do you say is radiating inner beauty or Christ’s beauty?  And how do you go about doing that in your life?

Debbie: Well, I also believe that God created man and man created social media.  And I personally use this platform to express my faith in being a child of God.  So for me, Rolita, I think it takes a lot of maturity to reach this level of acceptance.  So for me it’s only been through my relationship with Jesus Christ that I’ve been able to achieve this level of acceptance and self-love.  I’m very conscientious that I was created in His image and if someone’s going to be looking at me, I hope that they’re going to see Him.  And I had someone tell me one time, when you look in your mirror I hope you’re seeing Jesus.  And that’s a beautiful thing to see.  Obviously, the only perfect human being ever to walk this earth was Jesus Christ so none of us are perfect.  So I cannot look in that mirror and go, wow! – look you’re perfect.  But there’s a phrase we’ve heard all of our lives that says, “You know you’re the spitting image of so and so.”  Right?  Your momma.  Your daddy – whomever.  And I thought, if I were going to have a tombstone which I won’t because of cremation, but I’ve thought on my tombstone, my grave marker, I would like for it to say, “The spitting image of Jesus.”  My sister sent me an Easter card, and it’s the sweetest thing in the world.  I thought she knew when she sent this to me what it was going to mean to me.  Just a few words.  But it says, “Some people see God in the shape of the clouds or in images that appear in ordinary things.  Me?  I see Him in you.”  That is so powerful.  And I realize that people who may read this don’t have that type of relationship with the Lord.  I know that’s not necessarily your platform for us to be witnessing to people, but it is my platform.  And I think that to know inner beauty, to exude outer beauty, you’ve got to find beauty in your relationship with your Creator.  Once you have that the rest just falls into place.

Rolita: And I totally agree.  In this platform we talk about beauty or inner beauty.  Paul talked about how we are to be living epistles of Christ.  So, when we talk about what radiating beauty or radiating inner beauty mean to you or Christ beauty mean to you, that is a form of witnessing.  People need to know what that is.  What does that mean to you?  What is that character?  What about Him in you makes you want to radiate that beauty?

www.trombleyteam.itworks.comDebbie: No, I agree.  Another quick thing that I tell people all the time.  There is another phrase that as females we’ve heard people say, “Oh, she’s a daddy’s little girl.”  Or, “She’s just spoiled rotten.”  I heard that described about other little friends of mine because they had a daddy that was still in their home.  Even though I had my precious uncle, I can say now as a 66 year old daughter of Jesus Christ that I am Daddy’s little girl and I am spoiled rotten.  I feel more beautiful now than I ever have in my whole life.  Obviously, I’ve got some silver in my hair.  I’ve got some wrinkles on my skin and I’ve got some age spots.  (Laughing)  But, they all reflect the fullness of the life He’s given me.  And it makes you appreciate every second that has passed and every second that is to come.

Rolita: Hmm.  Yes.  Yes and Amen.  I agree.  Is there anything else that you wanted to add?

Debbie: This is my one piece of sage advice.  Know your purpose, live your purpose and share your purpose.  And the purpose doesn’t mean that you’re the next Einstein or the next Billy Graham.  It simply means that you were created for such a time as this.  And for me, it’s to be an encourager and to make people understand that it’s never too late for anything.  It’s never too late for a relationship with the Lord as long as you’re breathing air.  It’s never too late to pursue your dream.  It’s never too late.

Rolita: I love it.  Again, I really appreciate you taking the time out to allow me to interview you.  Thank you so much.

Debbie: Oh, honey!  You’re so welcome. ♥

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Spotlight on Crystal Joy Vol. 004

Crystal Joy Pic 2To meet Crystal Joy is to experience her and all the creativity that abounds from her.  She utilizes her gifts, talents, education and hands-on experience to glorify God while serving His people.  She is adamant and clear on giving all the credit for her accomplishments to God.  She knows her passion for the arts and compassion for people serve a divine purpose. 

After high school and training in the arts, Crystal continued her education in telecommunications, social work, and counseling.  She added to her formal training a Masters in Administration and Education.  While her background consists of public school teaching, she’s had accomplishments in the arts, media and entertainment industries.  That includes a radio personality, television and film actress, writing, producing and performing in plays, conducting training workshops in the arts and ministry arts programs as well as a product developer, singer and writer of curriculums and books.  Crystal’s acting endeavors led to a role in the film, Boulevard with the late actor and comedian Robin Williams.  Currently, she operates in full-time responsibilities at Born Again Church as a Department Head and Producer of Living Parables Drama Ministry.  As an accomplished author, her recent book titled, Who ART in Heaven? Understanding and Incorporating the Divine Symmetry of Arts and Academics is now available as ebook or paperback. 

As part of the Joy in the Morning team, Crystal can be heard Sunday mornings on Nashville’s 92Q from 9 am – 1 pm helping people start their week with a joy fix.  For more information about Crystal, go to CJoyMinistries.com. 

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Rolita: As a little girl, how did your environment affect your view about beauty?

Crystal: Oh, wow!  My environment?  Well, unfortunately I think that my environment was so inundated with beauty connected to value that you really didn’t have much of any value unless some man or men thought you were beautiful.  Otherwise, you were ok.  As a matter of fact, I remember in high school overhearing my brother talking to some of his friends.  And they were going down the list of all of these girls that they thought were fine or foxy or whatever the term was at the time.  And then somebody said, “What about Billy’s sister?”  And everybody got silent.  (Laughing)  I thought did they get silent because they were afraid to say something in front of my brother.  Finally, one of them said, “She aight.  You know.  She got a ways to go.”  And I thought, wow!  It hurt but at the same time I thought, you know what? – I really don’t want to deal with anybody who doesn’t see me beyond what I look like on the outside.  Of course, it didn’t help that my youngest brother called me pizza-face cause I had acne issues like none other.  (Laughing)  But, I think that to tell a woman or young girl that it’s all about the beauty on the inside, it really needs to start when they’re very very young.  But, not just saying that but continually telling them that they are beautiful period.

Rolita: Ok, wait.  So that is how you felt even as a young girl? 

Crystal: Yeah.  I always felt irritated when somebody did think I was beautiful.  I felt irritated and good because it always was translated into your value as a woman.  And if you were not beautiful, etc. so on and so forth in the eyes of whoever was looking at you, then you have officially moved to the bottom of the totem pole, if not beneath the earth.  You were either pretty or you were ugly.  And it’s interesting because I don’t remember anybody actually coming out saying it but I find it interesting that I never saw myself as that.  As beautiful.  I just saw myself as a basic girl.  A basic girl that you basically marry if you basically can’t find anybody else.  (Laughing)  You know because I was good wife material except I was average as far as looks were concerned.  Because beauty was always tied into a particular look and if you did not fit that look, you did not fit in.

Rolita: Ok.  So did you compare yourself to other girls because of that look – whatever look was in at that time.

Crystal: I did.  I did sometimes.  And this may sound really crazy – but, to some people that know me personally they probably wouldn’t think that it sounded crazy.  I always had my own way of dealing with that.  I didn’t feel awful or, oh God, I wish I look like her.  Because when I would get to that point, immediately I started thinking about how that person carried their looks.  If they carried it with a stinky attitude, then I was like, ok I don’t want to look like her.  But, if they carried it with grace and charm and beauty from the inside, then it would really make me feel like, man I wish I look like that.  I really wish I look like that.  But in all honesty, the ones that were physically beautiful but they had a nasty attitude – whether it was to men or to women or to both – I just didn’t want to look like them anymore.  It was a major turn off.  So there were some that I felt like, man I wish I could look like that.  And it was usually the ones that carried themselves so well that I wanted to have the outside beauty as well as inside beauty.

Rolita: Did your views back then affect any of your relationships, be it with females or with males?

Crystal: You know that is a good question.  To some degree with both but not extensively.  Because when it came to looks, my family got to the point where they would tease me about, “Well Crystal doesn’t care what she looks like.  She just walks out the door.”  (Laughing) It would depend on my mood.  If I wasn’t in the mood to look cute or to dress myself up in adding a little extra, then I wouldn’t.  And why wouldn’t I?  Because I knew at some point I would get a cat call or some kind of vulgar something thrown at me or a compliment in a nasty way.

Rolita: Ok.  The cat call was coming from?

Crystal: Coming from the men.  But as far as the women were concerned, it would Crystal Joy Pic 1make me feel more confident to dress up because it seemed like the women would treat me with greater respect.

Rolita: But the men’s side would come from the side of the vulgarity?

Crystal: Yeah!  Yeah!  And then it depended on the demographic.  It depended on their background, etc. because even men that were well-to-do would treat me differently.  I actually experimented with this kind of unconsciously.  I went to a car dealership and I was looking like whosoever will.  I did.  I just looked like well whatever.  Because I was on my way to do laundry or something like that.  Something where you don’t dress up to do.  So, I stopped at the dealership.  I didn’t really want anybody to talk to me.  I just wanted to look at a particular car that I was interested in at the time.  I don’t even remember what the car was.  I was just looking.  And when I did and when I say no one – I mean noooo one came to help me. (Laughing)  They looked at me from a distance and kept on moving.  So, the next time I came back and I looked cute.  I knew I was cute.  I was like, you didn’t have to tell me I was cute.  I walked in like you know I own this joint and yo’ momma in it.  So all of a sudden different ones wanted to help.  I mean they perked up immediately.

Rolita: (Laughing) Same dealership?

Crystal: Same dealership.  Yeah!  Same dealership.  And it was a very short moment, a very brief moment, but I said I am going to remember this.  This is a hot mess.  It made me so mad.  Cause I was thinking that I’m not going to buy from you at all, even if I wanted this vehicle because you didn’t respect me as a person to come and assist me.  I could have been a multi-billionaire which a lot of billionaires and millionaires dress down.  They don’t dress up.  It’s only the ones that aren’t use to having the money or whatever, is what they always say.  And sometimes I dress kind of average which I can’t do now since I’m working in radio.  Everybody’s looking at you like, Eew!  So you have to deal with the superficiality of people when it comes to being a public figure so to speak.  And then, that’s even biblical.  That you have to look your best and do your best when you are a public figure because you’re representing more than just the place you work or what you have as a career.  You’re representing God on a whole different level.  Not that you should dress like a bum any other time, but the demand is there more.  So, if I know that I’m going to be around anyone in the public eye, I try to add a little something extra to it.  Not that I dress like a bum any other time.  But it’s a different perspective now.  Totally different.

 Rolita: With that being said, what does beauty mean to you now?

Crystal: Oh!  Wow!  Beauty means everything about being everything that God has called you to be on a 24/7 basis.  Regardless of who you’re in the atmosphere with.  Regardless of who you’re around.  I believe it’s being humble.  As far as the physical side of it, I believe it’s enhancing the gifts of the beauty that God has given you.  You know?  If you have a full nose, like I have a full nose.  My mom use to call it a little bunt nose.  And I don’t know what a bunt nose is.  (Laughing) I guess that was short for button or something.  But she said she always loved it.  And I hated it only because for African-Americans, if you didn’t have a keen straight nose, like the white counterparts then something was wrong with you or you were too black.  But, I’ve learned over time to just appreciate what God has given me with no desire whatsoever to get a facelift or nose job or anything like that.  I mean seriously.  Who wants to go through all that drama?  Suppose you die the next day.  Your nose goes with you and the bill.  But things today, it’s all about the depth of the person on the inside and that’s what I want to be.  I want to have such a sincere pure heart of humility that that is what draws people even if I look a hot mess.  (Laughing)

Rolita: (Laughing) Ok.  What do you think about society’s standard of beauty today, how it affects young girls and women?  And do you think it adds to bullying?

Crystal: Whew!  Ab-so-lute-ly!  On the last one.  On the last question.  Oh my goodness.  Absolutely.

Rolita: (Laughing) On the last one.  You went right to the last one.

Crystal: There is something I tell people on a regular basis and something I’ve learned.  If everyone practiced this and practiced it with full understanding – then that means we’d be perfect.  I think it would shut down the bullying and the jealousy and the ridiculousness that exists as far as society is concerned in the social realm of every age group.  And that is remembering the fact that everybody wants to be loved, appreciated, accepted, valued and respected.  When all of those things are cultivated in your mindset, when you come in contact with anybody, if you filter that through everything you do, everything you say, your facial expressions.  Imagine how significantly different we would treat each other.  And unfortunately, that doesn’t exist across the board.  It is very true that based upon our human nature people basically size you up in the first 5 seconds just by looking at you.  Even if they’ve had conversations with you over a period of time, there’s an adjustment in how a person looks at you because they have seen you.  So you can understand now that your own personal prejudices that you may not have been aware of start to surface.  So it’s about crucifying the flesh and your thought process to not respond in the opposite way of those things that I listed.  To respond to people in love, in respect, showing that you value them and appreciate them.  No, that’s not happening right now.  You can see it in social media.  I think social media has its place.  But as always the enemy finds another way to twist it up to teach us to destroy each other.  Everybody has a comment about everything and everybody feels free to make that comment and to make it any kind of way they want.  “You can’t stop me because it’s a free country or whatever.”  But they never think about the consequences that come behind that.  Case in point, so many of our young kids who have committed suicide because they were bullied.  They call it cyber-bullying now.  But bullying is bullying.  I think also – and I would love to start a campaign with this – is to get the young people to understand that the bullying doesn’t stop in high school.  You’ve got people in their 40s, 50s 60s, 70s, 80s who are booger bullies, honey.  And you’re like, are you kidding me?  It’s really a spirit of manipulation from a foundation of pride and insecurities, etc.  And we all know the basis behind it.  But putting a stop to it makes a significant difference.  We need to stand up for each other without the fear of not being able to “fit in anymore.”  To know that the real fitting in is in the kingdom of God.  Hey!

Rolita: Which brings me to my next question.  You hit my point.  What does radiating Christ’s beauty mean to you and what would you tell the young girls is true beauty?

Crystal: Oh my God!  One of these days I’m going to sum it up in a nutshell – you know I’m very talkative – cause there is so much.  I would say if I could sum it up, as much as I possibly can in one sentence, I would encourage the girls to dig deeply into the Word of God and every teaching connected to the subject of your value to God.  Once you get a full understanding of how much He loves you, how much He respects you, how much He honors you, how much He appreciates you, how much He adores you, nothing else really matters.  It does initially sometimes.  Because if you have parents that do not or friends that do not or siblings that do not respond to you in all of those ways, of course it’s going to affect you because you have an earthly relationship with them.  But there’s something about being rooted and grounded in the Word and the understanding and the knowing that God loves me for me.  He created me this way and there’s nothing you or you or you can do about it.  And I refuse to allow you to make me feel or encourage me to feel like I’m nothing.  However, I am going to love all of that out of you and I’m going to love you in spite of how you feel about me.

Rolita: Ok.  That’s your advice to the young girls? 

Crystal: That’s my advice to the young girls.

Rolita: So, I know I laid a lot on you.  I’m going back to the top of my first question.  I’m going to slow down.  I want to end on this.  What does radiating Christ beauty mean to you?  How do you, Crystal Joy of Joy in the Morning, radiate Christ’s beauty?  Because you’ve been given a platform.  Like you said, you’re a public figure.

Crystal: Woo!  Once you step over that line of just being a normal citizen so to speak and you become public knowledge.  Like everybody knows who you are, who is connected to that particular media source, it changes everything.  It’s like from that day forward; I have to be excellent in Christ.  And all of that means to me and how I try to exemplify that or be an example of that is to crucify my own flesh.  What does that mean?  Cause I sound so preachery and churchy.  That means to be very cognizant and very aware of my own nastiness, my own yuck, my own idiosyncrasies.  Not that I take ownership of it like, you don’t tell me what to do cause this is just me.  But I take ownership of the fact that I need to change that.  I need to cast it down.  I need to purify my heart, my soul, my mind so that I can reflect who God is through me.  Not in a pretentious, (squeaking her voice) oh how are you?  You know that phony baloney stuff.  But in the sense that, when people leave my presence, there is something about His presence that goes with them.  I remember reading in a book of one or two of my favorite counselors and I’m trying to think of their names.  I can’t think of their names right now.  But they’re two of the greatest relationship counselors in the universe.  I love them.  They gave an example in their book about when you bring in your presence, what do you leave behind once you leave?  They were giving the example of a boat and when you watch a boat go through the water there’s a wake.  And what kind of wake do you leave with everybody that you have come in contact with?  Every time I go for my walk by the river, when I see a boat, I immediately think about what they said.  Because you’re going to have an affect even after you’re long gone.  And it’s amazing to me after the boat or ship or whatever is long gone and even too far to look back, unless you have a telescope or whatever, all of a sudden out of nowhere you hear the water hit the banks.  And each time it hits, I’m like wow! – I wonder how many people I have hit as I have gone through the waters of life.  How many have I affected?  And it’s not like the water splashes and then vanishes.  No, it splashes and coats.  So, what did I say?  What did I do?  How did I respond to all of those people that I was passing through?  And how is it affecting them now?  So, I hope I answered your question.

Rolita: You answered my question.  That’s how you try to radiate Christ’s, right?  Is to make sure you leave a good example and coat them the right way. 

Crystal: (Laughing) Yes.  Yes.

Rolita: Thank you Crystal! 

Crystal: You’re so welcome.

Rolita: Crystal Joy of Joy in the Morning!  (Singing) Joy–Joy–Joy–Joy–Joy ♪♪.  I love it.  Thank you. ♥

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